Many people are wondering why they continue to STRUGGLE to achieve certain goals or feel a sense of contentment. I propose that the reason we struggle is because BURIED within is a BELIEF or beliefs we are choosing NOT to let go.

WHY WE STRUGGLE TO LET GO

We struggle to let go because what we are holding on to has become as familiar as a comfort blanket. Also, for many it is the belief that it is better to hold on to what we know than to try something new and “scary.” Still, it is often that we may not realize that we are the ones responsible for effecting any change we desire in our lives. Finally, one of our beliefs may be tripping us up right at the beginning because of our distorted patterns of thinking.

THE FIRST LIE THAT GETS THINGS ROLLING

There is a belief that you can’t or are not capable. This is interesting because as long as you are alive and able to learn, you are able to acquire knowledge and gain NEW skills. Thus, the idea that you are not capable is a belief that the “child inside you” continues to hold on to. Of course, that WAS true for a child, because children are dependent on their caretakers to do everything for them. We are incapable as children; however, you are NO LONGER a child, and you have more skills and tools at your disposal. Plus, you can learn what you do not know.

Does this lie sound like something you are still holding on to now as an adult?

This lie keeps us trapped in mediocrity. We are convinced that we cannot do better and therefore, we don’t even want to try. Thus, we end up stuck, procrastinating, and unhappy.

THE SECOND LIE THAT DERAILS US

The belief that you are not deserving or worthy of success or good things happening in your life or for you. The question I think of when I see this one is, “Who has decided that you do not deserve?” As you think about this, realize that ONLY God can decide what you deserve or do not deserve.

Are you holding on to this lie that you do not deserve better or good things?

This belief really limits you for despite your wanting to achieve healthier lives, you will create scenarios that ultimately cause you to sabotage your attempts to achieve your goals.  

THE THIRD LIE THAT DOES A LOT OF DAMAGE

Perhaps you believe that you are not lovable. The idea that you are not lovable can send you in two directions, and neither is healthy in the long run. You either become a people pleaser or you withdraw from others. Furthermore, this belief leaves you unable to receive love from others and you mistrust those who show you love.

Is the belief that you are not lovable ruling your life?

Sadly, it is very difficult to take proper care of you and your health when you do not love yourself. Remember, we were created by a God who loves us and chose to bring us into this world.

THE FOURTH LIE IS THE MOST DAMAGING

The belief that “I am not enough” is the belief that I feel causes the most damage in our lives. This is so damaging that it can cripple or paralyze you. If you somehow manage to achieve some success with this lie, you live in constant fear that everyone will find out that you are an imposter.

Do you believe that as you are right now that you are not enough?

Remember, God does not make mistakes and everything that God created, He deemed it good. Your journey and your given talents were designed specifically for you.

NEGATE THE LIES WITH AWARENESS AND CONSISTENCY

First become aware of which lie is ruling your life. Then change your INTERPRETAION of what you perceived as a child based on the realization that you did not have all the facts. Furthermore, your parents had poor parenting skills because they did not know any better.

Next, realize that the only person criticizing and judging you today that matters is you. No one, unless they are perfect, has the right to criticize or judge you. Since they themselves are imperfect humans, you can disregard their input.

Know that honesty and integrity to self are essential if you want to neutralize the power of these lies. Examine your story and notice how much you have accomplished despite your belief that you can’t or do not deserve.

Finally, understand that you are NOT BROKEN, there is nothing wrong with you, for you are a perfect creation of Jesus Christ.